Fathers do not ‘babysit’ their kids

Questions posed to father when taking care of his children make him bristle.

Editor: Father’s Day has just passed. As the day approached, I thought that I would put fingers to keyboard and share a thought I had on being a Dad in the 21st century.

I have two boys (one and four). I regularly take them out to the park, and they often accompany me when I am running errands.

Doing this is no problem and I keep them happy, safe and secure. However I constantly see people looking at me, as if it is a rare sight to see a Dad out with his kids.

I literally feel like I am under a microscope, as people examine what I do and how I do it. It is as if they are waiting for me to screw up.

Nothing bugs me more than people who ask if it’s my turn to babysit, or if I’m “Giving Mom a break,” or being told I’m doing a “good job.”

Dads do not babysit — we parent.

Asking if I’m giving Mom a break implies that it is a chore to take care of my own kids. Also, if you would not feel the need to say “good job” to a Mom, then why say it to a Dad?

What people do by saying “good job” is to imply that we are expected to fail. Men are just as capable of caring for children as women, and we bring a unique viewpoint and skill set that does nothing but benefit the development of our kids.

I understand pop culture has us thinking Dads are like Homer Simpson or like any other sitcom Dad (immature, unintelligent, exceptionally poor role model and weak), but common sense should tell us that the reality is that modern Dads are intelligent, caring, strong and very capable.

We should all give Dads a little more credit.

Mike Major,

Walnut Grove

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